When God Isn’t Your Priority: Getting Your Life Back on Track

In our fast-paced, constantly connected world, it’s easy to let our priorities get out of order. We live in a culture where everything is screaming for our attention – from buzzing phones to endless notifications. But what happens when God gets pushed down our priority list? What happens when we’re too busy for the very relationship that should anchor everything else in our lives?

The Reality Check: If It’s Important, You Make Time

Here’s a hard truth: if something is important to you, you make time for it. If not, you make excuses. We all have the same 168 hours in a week. After subtracting sleep, we’re left with about 119 hours to spend. The question is: what are we choosing to give those precious hours to?

Think of it like a budget. If you made $20 an hour, you’d have $2,380 worth of time to “spend” each week. Would you spend $80 on four hours of TV? Would you invest $60 on three hours at the park with your kids? When we view our time this way, it becomes clear what we truly value.

What Happens When Our Priorities Get Out of Order?

The Old Testament prophet Haggai spoke to people who had their priorities completely backwards. In Haggai 1:5-7, God tells His people: “Think carefully about your ways. You have planted much, but harvested little. You eat, but are never satisfied. You drink, but never have enough… The wage earner puts his wages into a bag with holes in it.”

Sound familiar? When we place other things in the position that God should occupy, we find ourselves constantly striving but never satisfied. We work harder but never get ahead. We accumulate more but never feel fulfilled.

The Danger of Making Good Things Ultimate Things

The problem isn’t usually that we’re prioritizing obviously bad things. Often, we take good things – family, career, hobbies, even ministry – and elevate them to a place of ultimate importance. When we do this, these good things become idols.

Here’s a simple test: if you can’t give something up, it might be an idol. If you run to it in times of trouble instead of to God, it’s probably taken His place in your life.

How Do We Put God Back in His Rightful Place?

Jesus said in Matthew 6:33, “Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.” When God has His proper place in our lives, everything else can fall into alignment. Here are four practical ways to make God your priority:

1. Make Reading, Worship, and Prayer a Priority

One of the first questions to ask when God feels distant is: “What does my worship life look like? When did I last read Scripture? How’s my prayer life?” If you’re not reading, praying, or worshiping, how can you expect to have a relationship with God?

If you only pray during crises, you’ve conditioned yourself that you don’t need God during normal times. If you come to church and it’s the first time you’re hearing the worship songs, that’s a sign that worship isn’t a priority in your daily life.

2. Make Community a Priority

We become like the people we surround ourselves with. Acts 4:32 describes the early church as being “of one heart and mind.” The people we spend time with influence who we become.

If you’re wondering why you’re making certain choices or developing certain attitudes, look at your community. Are you surrounding yourself with people who will draw you closer to God or pull you away from Him?

3. Make Giving a Priority

Jesus said, “Where your treasure is, there your heart will be also” (Matthew 6:21). It’s easy to criticize something you’re not financially connected to. If you look at your finances and God’s kingdom isn’t represented there, then it’s not truly a priority.

Giving isn’t about earning God’s favor – it’s about aligning our hearts with His priorities. When we invest financially in God’s kingdom, our hearts follow.

4. Make Service a Priority

James 2:17 reminds us that “faith, if it doesn’t have works, is dead by itself.” We don’t serve to earn salvation or God’s love – we serve because we love God. Service is the overflow of our relationship with Him.

When we put our hands to the same things Jesus cared about, we fall more deeply in love with Him. We start seeing people the way He sees them and caring about what He cares about.

The Time Budget Challenge

Sometimes prioritizing God requires sacrifice. Maybe it means waking up 45 minutes earlier for quiet time with God. Maybe it means leaving for work early so you can sit in your car and pray. Maybe it means locking yourself in the bathroom for a few minutes of Bible reading when you have small children.

The key is finding time in your 119 hours when you can give God your best attention, not your leftovers.

Life Application

This week, challenge yourself to give God your best 12 hours out of your 119. This doesn’t mean 12 consecutive hours, but rather prioritizing God throughout your week in a way that adds up to your best 12 hours of time, energy, and attention.

This might look different for everyone. For some, it’s morning quiet time. For others, it’s evening reflection. The key is giving God your best, not what’s left over after everything else.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • When I look at how I spend my 119 hours each week, what does it reveal about my true priorities
  • What would need to change in my schedule to give God my best time rather than my leftovers
  • Which of the four areas (reading/worship/prayer, community, giving, service) needs the most attention in my life right now?
  • What “good thing” in my life might have become an ultimate thing that’s competing with God for first place?

Remember, you will never be loved more or less by God based on your performance. But when you prioritize Him, you’ll find that everything else in your life begins to fall into its proper place. God holds all things together, and when we seek Him first, He can sustain and order the rest of our lives in ways we never could on our own.

Finding Faith in the Whisper: What to Do When God Doesn’t Answer

We all have stories of times when God didn’t answer our prayers. Times when we stood in faith, asked God to move, and expected Him to act—but He didn’t. The job didn’t come through. The loved one passed away. The finances didn’t work out.

These experiences often leave us feeling disappointed or confused about God. And that disappointment can keep us at a distance from Him. You may have heard someone say (or said yourself): “God let me down” or “God and I had a deal, and He broke His end.”

Is It Normal to Feel Disappointed with God?

First, let me assure you—it’s okay to have these feelings. Sometimes we don’t get to understand what God is doing. We crave answers, but God doesn’t promise to give us all the answers to every question we ask.

Look at Job in the Bible. He never received answers to his questions about why he suffered. The truth is, it’s not always about getting the answer; it’s about learning faith in the unknown. We can learn how to process our disappointment and confusion and follow God better.

The God Who Whispers

In 1 Kings 19, we find Elijah hiding in a cave, afraid and disappointed. God asks him, “What are you doing here?” and Elijah pours out his heart. Then God tells him to go stand on the mountain:

“A great and mighty wind was tearing the mountains and shattering the cliffs before the Lord. But the Lord was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake there was a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire. And after the fire, there was a voice, a soft whisper.”

God wasn’t in the dramatic displays of power—the wind, earthquake, or fire. He was in the gentle whisper. This reveals something profound about the God we serve: sometimes God shouts, but often He whispers.

Why a Whisper Matters More Than You Think

A whisper is intimate. It requires closeness. Unlike a mighty wind that can flatten buildings from a distance, a whisper requires you to be near. While a hurricane can reverse the flow of the Mississippi River whether you’re paying attention or not, a whisper must be received.

An earthquake will shake you regardless of your readiness. A fire consumes everything in its path. But a gentle whisper brings calm. It’s tender, mild, and inviting rather than demanding. A whisper is an invitation, not a command.

We live in a noisy world where we expect immediate answers to every question. But God doesn’t work that way. The truest questions—the ones that really afflict our souls—are only answered in the quiet, in the God who whispers to us.

Sometimes in the whisper, God gives us answers. Sometimes He doesn’t. But the whisper isn’t meant to bring an answer to every question—it’s meant to reassure us that He’s present and close.

When the Whisper Doesn’t Change Everything

Interestingly, after Elijah heard God’s whisper, God asked him the same question again: “What are you doing here?” And Elijah gave the exact same answer as before. The whisper didn’t immediately take away his disappointment or fear.

But Elijah kept listening. He continued knowing God was with him. That’s what God wanted to develop in Elijah, and it’s what He wants to develop in us—the belief that He is who He says He is and that He’s near to us.

As theologian David Martin Lloyd Jones said, “Faith says, I cannot believe that He who has brought me this far is going to let me down at this point. It would be inconsistent with the character of God.”

Faith Is Wrestling, Not Certainty

Faith is not the absence of doubt but wrestling with doubt. In Psalm 13:1-2, David cries out:

“O Lord, how long will you forget me forever? How long will you look the other way? How long must I struggle with anguish in my soul, with sorrow in my heart? How long will my enemy have the upper hand?”

Have you ever felt this way? Have you ever asked God, “How long, Lord? Haven’t I taken enough by now?”

Faith is wrestling. It’s not about having all the answers or knowing the “why” behind everything. It’s about trusting when we cannot see. Faith is moving forward, understanding that doubt will always be present to some degree.

How Do We Handle Disappointment with God?

Here are three practical ways to handle disappointment and grief in your relationship with God:

1. Ask Questions

Not every question can be answered, but we should still ask them. Ask the truest questions, even the ones that scare you to say out loud. In Psalm 13, David asks hard questions without getting answers, yet he concludes: “I have trusted in your faithful love. My heart will rejoice in your deliverance.”

2. Be Honest

Be honest about how you’re feeling. There’s actually a physiological benefit to expressing your emotions honestly. Different tears contain different chemical compositions based on the emotions that trigger them. If you don’t address these feelings, your body holds onto that stress.

3. Own Your Feelings, But Don’t Let Them Own You

This may be the hardest of all. We will always have feelings—things happen, and we react. The trick is learning how to respond.

Feel the feeling you’re feeling. Own it. It might be wrong, but that’s okay. If you’re mad or frustrated, admit it. Be honest about that feeling, but don’t let that feeling control your actions. Ephesians 4:26 says, “Be angry and do not sin. Don’t let the sun go down on your anger.”

Developing “Even If” Faith

When we learn to settle in the wrestling, we develop what I call “even if” faith:

  • I will trust even if I’m confused
  • I will trust even if I don’t see
  • I will trust even if I’m scared
  • I will trust even if I don’t have the answers
  • I will trust even if I’m disappointed

Remember Shadrach, Meshach, and Abednego? We love that God rescued them from the fiery furnace. But their faith wasn’t based on rescue. They said, “But even if He does not rescue us, we want you to know that we will not serve your gods” (Daniel 3:18).

Similarly, Queen Esther said, “If I perish, I perish” (Esther 4:16). This is the kind of faith God is developing in His people—an “even if” faith.

The Role of Humility

Humility is foundational to this wrestling. It means accepting that we don’t have all the answers. It means acknowledging that God is God and we are not.

How often do we get frustrated because we told God what we wanted, and He didn’t obey? That’s pride. The reality is, God knows far more than we do.

Deuteronomy 29:29 says, “The hidden things belong to the Lord our God, but the revealed things belong to us and our children.” Some things are for God alone to know, and some things are for us. Humility accepts this distinction.

Just as parents understand things their children cannot comprehend, God knows more than we do. He sees the big picture—how today’s events might impact generations 200 years from now.

Life Application

Disappointment and confusion are inevitable parts of our faith journey. The enemy wants to use these feelings to keep us away from God, but God wants to use them to draw us closer to Him. Who will you listen to?

When you’re frustrated, confused, or don’t know the answer, press into Jesus. Listen for His gentle whisper. Know that He’s close and that He cares.

Ask yourself these questions this week:

  1. What disappointment am I holding onto that’s keeping me from drawing closer to God?
  2. Am I trying to force God to give me answers, or am I willing to trust Him even without understanding?
  3. How can I practice listening for God’s whisper in the midst of life’s noise?
  4. What would “even if” faith look like in my current situation?

Remember, it’s not always about getting the answer. It’s about learning faith in the unknown and trusting the God who whispers.